I learned a couple days ago about the death of one of my best friends from elementary school, Paul Jackson, while we were on vacation last month. Paul and I were classmates at St. Joseph's Elementary School, and eventually graduated together from Marshall High School, where he was on the football team while I was in the band.
My memories of Paul are mostly from when we were in elementary school when he, Curvey Sneed and I spent every recess playing football. Curvey was the running back, I was the quarterback, and Paul was the wide receiver - primarily (to me) because he shared the first name of Miami Dolphins receiver Paul Warfield. We were inseparable in fourth grade at recess - so much so that when I went to prep school in Dallas for a year in fifth grade, on one of my weekends home our parents set up a play date where we could toss the ball around - at which this picture was taken. (I'm the one on the left). 
But things had changed when I came back for sixth grade because the fall before, the Pittsburgh Steelers had named as starting quarterback a young man from Tennessee State, Joe Gilliam, who became a playground favorite at St. Joseph's. I remember like it was yesterday trying to rush Paul when he was playing quarterback (which was my job, after all!) and he was running around yelling that he was "'Jefferson Street Joe' Gilliam ... evading the rush!" (which, looking at the picture to the right you can tell wasn't too effective). I've never forgotten that was the first time I learned how important role models were because neither Paul nor I had ever seen a quarterback that wasn't white before (we were too young to remember Marlin Briscoe, who started for the Broncos in 1968). Before him, it was a given that I was the quarterback, probably because I looked like a quarterback (that I couldn't catch and was scared to get tackled probably factored into it - I may have been the playground equivalent of that weird thing you use to kick and throw in electric football because I couldn't do anything else). But once Joe Gilliam was playing - even for the few weeks he played that season - the clock couldn't be turned back, and we all shared time at each of the positions (I even learned how to catch). I never forgot how much what you think you can do depends on what you've seen others before you do. Paul was active for many years in Little League football and I have no doubt was a role model for a lot of kids.
But Paul was a man (or sixth grader) of varied interests. I remember one day when the teacher took a break in class (why I can't remember - we might have gotten caught passing written CB messages or something) Paul sang "Convoy" by C.W. McCall for the class. For those of you that missed 1975, "Convoy" was the monster radio hit that sparked the popularity of CB radios nationwide for ... well, at least six weeks. While we all loved the song and could sing the chorus ("'Cause we got a little old convoy, rocking through the night...), only Paul could repeat the lyrics of the CB breaks word for word ("Ah, breaker one-nine, this here's the Rubber Duck. So the teacher had us sing the song and let Paul do the CB breaks on "air CB." Paul Jackson - Renaissance Man (East Texas style).
Paul, you will be missed.