Pamela Matthews - (March 19, 1967 - March 17, 2014)
Graveside services for Pamela Matthews, 46, of Marshall, will be held on Monday, March 24, 2014, at 2 P.M. at Gladewater Memorial Park with Father John Himes officiating.
Born on March 19, 1967, in Stockton, California, she died on Monday, March 17, 2014. She was a graduate of Marshall High School ...
The problem with an obituary for someone that you don't know is that you don't have anyone to tell you what is in between the lines about the person – what you really need to understand the loss that her family and friends are suffered. So I thought I'd make a few comments in the margins so to speak.
I first met Pam when I was about to graduate from Marshall High School in 1982, and she was a member of the ninth grade band that came over to the main campus for a band concert. I was the band historian at the time, and was shooting pictures of everything in sight, and got this one of her in her majorette uniform (and the one below at the annual Red & White game). For the next three years Pam came to East Texas State University, where I was an undergraduate student, in the spring for solo & ensemble competition, and ragging the boy-crazy clarinet player from Marshall around about her old majorette uniform was standard practice in the band fraternity I was a member of.
That we were both members of the same high school band, even though not at the same time, means something locally. It means we were members of a group that learned under our long time band director Dr. Jerry R Payne (30 years in Marshall schools) how to work towards a goal, and how to conduct yourself professionally as a member of an organization.
Pam was one of the few people that realized that when Doc showed up in front of our office in his van bringing Miss Marilyn to get her hair done next door, it was the small-town equivalent of a state visit from the President, and she would hustle both of us out to the sidewalk to open the door and see if Doc or Mrs. Payne needed anything. That was important to both of us, for reasons going back 30 years.
.... Draughon’s Training Institute, and East Texas Baptist University. She graduated with a B.A.S. Legal Assistant Studies degree, a political science degree, and a sociology degree. ...
The next time I saw Pam was in 1993 when I had returned to Marshall to clerk for Judge Sam B Hall, Jr. over at the federal courthouse after law school. One of the opportunities that his clerks had was to teach in the legal assistants program at East Texas Baptist University, and Pam was one of the students in my civil procedure class. Her performance in her classes was so good that one of her professors vouched for her to a friend with a Henderson firm, and help her get her first job as a paralegal. She graduated from college at ETBU, and was a leader in the Northeast Texas Association of Paralegals (NTAP) as well as with the paralegal profession statewide.
Pam was just one of those ninja paralegals that could do anything. You know the kind.
... She worked for Wellborn Houston Law Firm in Henderson, Dobbs and Tittle Law Firm in Tyler, Erskine and McMahon Law Firm of Longview; Siebman, Burg, Phillips, and Smith LLP Law Firm of Marshall.
For most of her legal assistant career, Pam worked for the Wellborn Houston firm in Henderson, which for many many years was one of the two large plaintiffs' firms in East Texas. This was a another connection that we had, because my first jobs and law firm was at the Jones, Jones, Baldwin, Curry & Roth firm in Marshall as a runner, and later during law school as a law clerk (and after that for Carl Roth for 14 years after he left the firm and I left the courthouse). We shared the experience of working for large, highly skilled firms that worked together as a team, and went to trial a lot, even by local standards. She knew - without me having to say anything - how to treat clients and prepare files because she'd been trained by some of the best lawyers in the area. This experience also gave her an experienced second set of eyes on issues when I needed them.
Her hobbies included the bowling team, golf, horseback riding, hunting, and helping animals find homes.
Pam's passion was helping animals, in particular dogs, and last week at their meeting NTAP made a donation to the Marshall animal shelter in Pam's memory. She would have liked that.
She was a member of the Trinity Episcopal Church in Marshall. She is survived by her father and mother, William E. and Robbie D. Anderson of Kilgore; son, Branden Allan and wife, Debbra, and their children, Corrin, Randall, and Derrick. She, in addition, is survived by her twin sister, Sharon, and husband, Robert Adams of Troup and their children, Shelby, Chelsea, Zeke, and Gabe; sister, Misty Yates and fiancée Danny Butler of Marshall; step-brother, John Townsend and his daughter, Barbara, of Carthage.
Pamela met each day with a cup of coffee and looked forward to the challenges of working for the law firm of Michael C. Smith in Marshall.
Six years ago, when Pam learned that I needed a paralegal/office manager – what is referred to locally either as a "Donna" or an "office wife" as my wife puts it (they are used to being called Jamie or Pam interchangeably - which neither minds since - this being Marshall - they were in the same high school graduating class so they'd actually known each other longer than either has known me) she called me, and neither of us has looked back since.
My favorite picture of Pam, and how I will remember her is this one the day that we moved into the Hub, months before the renovations were complete. We just walked in, with our computers and monitors under our arms, and set up shop in the only room that was even partially complete, the small conference room.
As you can tell, it didn't even have a floor, light fixtures, - it was a few days before we even started getting doorknobs. We had to plug in lamps to see to work, and carry a flashlight to go to the bathroom. But as you can tell from the smile on her face, Pam absolutely loved it. It was an adventure.
So while we have enjoyed the offices since they were finished, as you can tell in this picture of Pam from the reception we had for the artists in the building after the renovations were completed, she loved it even when it was all paint fumes and sheet rock dust. She just loved what she did.
Pam was the consummate professional at work, as the hundreds of clients, lawyers and friends that pass through our doors saw. She took great pride in her work, knew what to do most of the time, and who to call to find out what to do when she didn't, and she made our office not just friendly, but efficient, and in the end a hell of a lot of fun to come to work at.
She was a gifted, generous, and loving mother, daughter, sister, and friend. Pamela was an optimist that believed given time, everything will turn out all right. She loved her work, friends, and especially her dogs, Dolly and Judge and Chindi. Pam had recently married Dudley Taylor of Marshall.
If so desired, Pam would love for donations to be made to your local animal shelters for pet care and adoptions. Rescue a pet or sponsor a loving family who longs to.
The family will receive friends from 6 to 8 P.M. on Sunday, March 23, 2014, at Croley Funeral Home in Gladewater.